What is Childhood Regression?
Feel like a kid sometimes? See the immaturity in others sometimes? Yes? That is probably because the child within us still needs to resolve certain issues. During childhood we have formed some false beliefs and stored negative emotions associated with events in those formative years that creates patterns for our whole life. Childhood Regression Technique is the name I’ve given to a technique that helps us resolve childhood issues once and for all. It is a simple technique to help you become more self-aware and take greater responsibility for your actions and choices. Our automatic responses and habits can be self-sabotaging if we are not aware of them.
For example, do you get mad at yourself for ‘messing’ up? We automatically ‘parent’ ourselves with anger and chastisement the way we would’ve been treated from the adults of our youth. Perhaps at that time we’ve interpreted the chastisement as a message that we can’t be trusted. So from then on the false belief we’ve adopted is: “I can’t be trusted” (or something similar to that). This belief leads to self doubt and lack of self acceptance. This is something we can resolve with this Childhood Regression Technique.
As I do Energy Healing work with clients, I’ve noticed that everything we do takes us to the THOUGHTS and CORE BELIEFS levels. So the goal of this technique is to not only help you address feelings of the past but discover beliefs you’ve formed at that time. This activity is very informative because it helps you learn more about yourself.
I’ve learned similar techniques from several source including other energy healers and books. After much prayer, I’ve modified it to the way I understand it best which includes an understanding of God’s role in our lives. I hope it helps you the way it has helped me and my clients.
Why is Childhood Regression Technique important?
Childhood Regression Technique is empowering. It is important to help you fully own your power to choose and then to create.
Here are some benefits:
Create more self-awareness and self-mastery
Resolve trapped emotions & rewrite false beliefs
Increase self-acceptance and self-love
Increase faith in and love for God
Disrupts negative patterns in your life from repeating
Stops you from blaming more and allow you to fully be accountable for your choices
How to do Childhood Regression Technique work yourself?
There are three steps to this work. Acknowledge, Address, & Appreciate.
Step #1 Acknowledge
This step is to allow the younger version of you talk FREELY. As you investigate and explore this particular time, you may be surprised what comes up that you may not have been aware of. Record these feelings. We may not be aware of this but we CHOOSE all of our feelings, responses and reactions to things. Most of the time, we discover that our reactions is learned or inherited automatic responses. Most of us aren’t aware that we allow our feelings to control us. When you heal and change, you actually heal for your family past and present too. At least you can now be aware enough to stop negative family patterns from repeating.
Close your eyes to help you visualize.
Go back to the age you need. Picture yourself visiting the younger version of yourself.
Ask your younger self to describe how you feel. Ask probing questions of yourself to get down to the core thoughts and beliefs under those feelings.
Sometimes talking about it resolves it immediately. Sometimes this helps you see things differently.
Just ‘listen’ to yourself until your younger self feels ‘fully heard and acknowledged’.
Sometimes you may have been ‘shut down'(or interrupted) as a child so the negative energy of that situation was not resolved and did not run it’s course. That negative emotion is still stored inside you somewhere like a snowball that keeps growing as it rolls down hill. As an adult, you may have ‘down played’ or ‘minimized’ this situation as you retell it. But to that small child, it was a big deal.
Possible examples & false beliefs:
A child whose had a parent walk-out on her. Her core thoughts and beliefs might be: I’m not good enough
A child born premature. Her core thoughts and beliefs might be: I can’t finish, I jump the gun, I’m impatient
A child bullied at school. His core thoughts and beliefs might be: I don’t belong, fear of rejection, not good enough
A child whose parents divorced. Her core thoughts and beliefs might be: I’m not good enough, being adult is hard, can’t rely on people,
A new sibling is born. The older sibling’s core thoughts and beliefs might be: I’m abandoned
Step #2 Address
Sometimes as adults, we can’t even see relief or resolution in sight because the child within has never had certain needs met. You can imagine that subconscious is still asking for that thing and never feels satisfied. Have you met some adults with interesting fetiches? Resolving the belief underneath your ‘block(s)’ may help you to finally find relief, peace, success and joy. This step helps us finally resolve certain issues from childhood. You are the ONLY one who knows exactly what the younger version of you need. Say the words you’ve wanted to hear to yourself.
In your mind, give your younger self what she/he needs. For example, if she wanted to be warm or read to etc. Do it in your mind.
With your current adult understanding, you can help the younger version of yourself ‘understand’ the situation better. Help him/her see the situation in a more positive perspective with perhaps some explanations.
Possible Examples & resolutions
His father promised him a bike but failed to. Give that child a bike in your mind. Tell him he can have a bike. Let him ride it.
A child locked up in her room. Take her to the place she needed to go. Open that door for her.
A child who needed some loving attention. How does he want that love? He wanted to be read.
She wanted her own space in the crowded refugee camp. Create a space for her the way she needs it.
Her parents divorced and she blames herself. Explain to that child what is happening in the family and that it isn’t her fault.
Step #3 Appreciate & Accept
This is an important step. If we do not fully surrender our will to God, the life lessons repeats itself and you’ll find you are going around in circles. I believe the family, the country, the culture you were born in was orchestrated by God. When you feel like your life isn’t successful, perhaps your idea of perfection and success might be different to God’s. Things happened for a reason. He is more concerned about your progression than your comfort. It seems to me, you become more comfortable the more you surrender to the process. This means you allow, accept and appreciate the lessons that come. I believe God consecrates all things for our benefits.
Consider God allowed things to happen as part of a perfectly orchestrated plan that benefits us in some way. List things you can appreciate about your particular childhood situation.
Talk about how you can accept the lessons as it plays a part in refining you and forming you into the person you are today. You will heal fully when you’ve learned to appreciate and accept the situation of your youth.
Examples of Appreciation & Acceptance
A lady whose mother walked-out on her can now choose to be a better parent to her children having learned from the experiences from her youth. She now practices intentional parenting. Her pains gave her passion and drive to be an excellent parent.
My refugee trauma’s helped me be aware of other’s who have traumas and I can now encourage them to see that they too can grow from their experience. This passion drives me to learn all I can about self-healing. It helps me be aware of others around me who may have trapped and unresolved emotions.
A lady who was shut down when she had too much ‘fun’ now allows others to have fun and reminds them that they are allowed have fun. She can teach them that they are not responsible for other’s happiness.
My hero Christina Noble used her pains and sorrows to make special connections with homeless kids in Vietnam. It created passion inside of her to create the Christina Noble foundation and not be discouraged during that difficult process.
How to help others do it?
Helping others with Childhood Regression Technique is easy. Just go through the steps with them. The goal is to ask questions to help them identify their core thoughts and beliefs. Write things down for people as they go through this exercise so they can review it later. Stay objective, unattached and non- judgemental. Be as understanding as possible. Help them take off that ‘victim lenses’ and put on the ’empowering lenses’.
It is best to do this activity with someone you love and trust. They might see and hear things you may have missed as you go through the activities.
For example, my friend and I were working on helping me heal the Asthma I was suffering from. As I retold my story on the fishing boat as we escaped from Vietnam, my friend stopped me when I was explaining how I had to be quiet on the boat. She asked, ‘What do you have to do to be quiet?’ I replied, ‘I had to hold my breath!’ Then it dawned on me. I held my breath and keep holding my breath as I grew up. I continued to feel responsible for other people’s wellbeing. No one thought to tell me I could breath again. As soon as I told myself, “Jade, you can breathe normally again,” I cried and cried like I was that 2 year old child. I didn’t even know that issue was inside of me.
